tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2687720633955485205.post7873319793890709305..comments2023-05-20T04:48:10.910-07:00Comments on Somewhat lower: I finally get itSarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02747382929049494704noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2687720633955485205.post-16216687240154999792009-01-16T11:11:00.000-08:002009-01-16T11:11:00.000-08:00Good luck this round!I think your observations are...Good luck this round!<BR/><BR/>I think your observations are spot on. I have found I can be empathetic to people dealing with secondary IF if I try to see it from their perspective. Sometimes it is the first time they have dealt with life going completely wrong.<BR/><BR/>I think the people who say that secondary is just as bad as primary (and experienced both) are the ones where they never really had to face childlessness the first time. They may have had trouble, but not THAT much trouble.Kamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01215000341567119958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2687720633955485205.post-72687737631605059072008-12-13T12:29:00.000-08:002008-12-13T12:29:00.000-08:00Thanks Sara for a well thought out post and "spell...Thanks Sara for a well thought out post and "spelling-out" for me. <BR/><BR/>Good luck with round 2! Hopefully, it goes a lot smoother than round 1.JENNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10073953663757796828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2687720633955485205.post-45176380026143970412008-12-04T07:18:00.000-08:002008-12-04T07:18:00.000-08:00I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you.I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you.Rachel Inbarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06605780418673759318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2687720633955485205.post-4752018949852076082008-12-03T17:09:00.000-08:002008-12-03T17:09:00.000-08:00I can't really make the distinction between the 2 ...I can't really make the distinction between the 2 (maybe because I am too tired). But I think people want to cling to silly ideas. I had friends who had fertility problems who did not want to use a fertility monitor because it would "break the magic". How about IVF to break the magic? Duh! There are also bloggers I don't like to read because their choices make me uncomfortable (donor eggs, donor sperm, surrogate, triplets and more... thought I realize I would donate my eggs in a heartbeat to my sister if she needed them, and would surrogate for her). And I hate the ones always getting pregnant on the first IVF try and not being THANKFUL. That drives me mad with jealousy!Marie-Baguettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01149548077358647791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2687720633955485205.post-11317173508064886112008-11-28T17:03:00.000-08:002008-11-28T17:03:00.000-08:00Beautiful, beautiful, BEAUTIFUL post. I LOVE this ...Beautiful, beautiful, BEAUTIFUL post. I LOVE this post. Good luck to you as you embark on trying again. <BR/><BR/>I left something for you on my blog!JW Moxiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16865232770753428076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2687720633955485205.post-26803089647988572062008-11-28T09:51:00.000-08:002008-11-28T09:51:00.000-08:00An interesting distinction, but I still don't quit...An interesting distinction, but I still don't quite get the argument that secondary is worse than primary infertility. Perhaps in a while though ...Lut C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03893061829410958985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2687720633955485205.post-39802274886982442992008-11-24T11:09:00.000-08:002008-11-24T11:09:00.000-08:00Well said, Sara! I hadn't made that distinction, a...Well said, Sara! I hadn't made that distinction, and it needs making. For me, my infertility was a shock, and my sadness at possibly being childless was enormous. Now that I have a child my infertility doesn't seem so bad (also because we are happy with just one).<BR/>I'm glad your period came so soon after night weaning. I wish you a speedy and easy journey to child #2.<BR/>RoseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2687720633955485205.post-80870751027960733962008-11-24T02:43:00.000-08:002008-11-24T02:43:00.000-08:00Beautiful post. Definitely puts some perspective ...Beautiful post. Definitely puts some perspective on all of the issues that can arise amongst infertiles.<BR/><BR/>Good luck trying to conceive a sibling. In a way, I'm lucky as I know that there is no chance at all of conceiving naturally. Seems stupid to say I'm lucky to have to do IVF but in a way I am. There isn't the constant roller coaster every month -- I have to put the roller coaster into drive to make it happen.<BR/><BR/>Secondary infertility is definitely a different beast. I hope your journey through this field is shorter and easier than the last.Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01418041735007521091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2687720633955485205.post-82994477627308709902008-11-23T19:47:00.000-08:002008-11-23T19:47:00.000-08:00That's a really excellent description. I have fri...That's a really excellent description. I have friends without partners who have felt a lack of children, and I can see where they are coming from much better after reading your post.Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02799401502134619497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2687720633955485205.post-8390713759621218792008-11-22T12:50:00.000-08:002008-11-22T12:50:00.000-08:00A very interesting post! I had not considered chi...A very interesting post! I had not considered childlessness and infertility separately, though that may be because we had our first success shortly after getting medical help. And what motivated us to get that help was the fact that childlessness was (for me) never an option to consider.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2687720633955485205.post-58986943915716741412008-11-22T10:33:00.000-08:002008-11-22T10:33:00.000-08:00Great thought sara, that's the best model I've hea...Great thought sara, that's the best model I've heard of for understanding our responses. I always thought of it as one long continuous scale- first you grieve infertility, then get on with the business of resolving childlessness but I think you're right that they are independent variables. I envision you could plot yourself on a grid with one scale on each axis and then it's easy to see why we all have to find our own path. Great thoughts!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01587725139301198392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2687720633955485205.post-35373556040907577422008-11-22T06:54:00.000-08:002008-11-22T06:54:00.000-08:00I really hope this time around goes more smoothly....I really hope this time around goes more smoothly. :)<BR/><BR/>I am one of those people who said I was angry about my choice being taken away. But lately, the idea of childlessness has been scaring me more and more.<BR/>Your post puts it out there and seems to ask if we are satisfied with our identities on the spectrum. Or maybe that is just in my mind.<BR/>Either way, as always, thank you for a poignant entry that makes us think.Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17363847055178499778noreply@blogger.com